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"...the
world doesn't just belong to him...it belongs to me, too. And the
only limits are the ones I choose to accept ...."- Christine from the Breakups
Suck
Board
July 26
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
The "what should be" never did exist, but people keep trying to live up to
it. There is no "what should be," there is only what is. ~~Lenny Bruce
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll stop seeking my happiness as that of something that only another
can give me. Today I'll start looking for happiness in another direction
- and that is by loving and accepting myself more. Today I am perfectly happy
in holding my own hand, as I am my new best friend. Today I learn that only
I can bring the sun up in my morning.
Just for today I will embrace myself, with all the rapture of a maternal
love. Today I will cradle my inner child, and rock its fears away. ~~Tigress
Luv
July 25
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Some of the hurts you have cured
And the sharpest you still have survived
But what torments of grief you endured
From evils which never arrived! ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Today's Prayer or Thought:
When we desperately hold on to a lost love too
long, we are usually thought of with disgust. Our exes disgust us for it,
and we disgust ourselves for it. Today let us realize that what we gain when
we don't let go of a lost love is loss of pride and dignity.
Today let me gain back my dignity, and realize that living is about me, not
them! ~Tigress Luv
July 24
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Remember to dream ...
but not to hold that dream too close to you.
In order to be, your dream needs to be set free,
so let it go -- and make it come true!~~Tigress Luv
Today's Prayer or Thought:
If I've been stuck in my past -- afraid of moving on , or seeking 'change'
in my life -- I'll ask myself, 'Why am I scared?' 'What is it I'm
so afraid of?' Is it because clinging on to what is 'known' to me
represents security, and the 'unknown' represents risk? If I have fear
of 'change' I have to remember to inner-reflect and see how in my past 'change'
has always meant betterment and not losing.
Today I'll try to remember that often taking risks and venturing into
the unknown is what brought me to many wonderful places in my past life.
When I no longer fear risks, when I see change through eager anticipation,
I give control back to me. I am no longer afraid but avidly looking
forward to what new adventures my life may hold. ~~Tigress Luv
July 23
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
For those of us who 'think', we just
'are' - and that's all we will ever be. For those
of us who do, will live. ~Tigress Luv
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Just for today I will stop my 'thinking' and
put 'action' to my thoughts. Just for today I will create an outcome
to just one of my dreams, by initiating and undertaking something I have
wanted to do for a long time. I will come to realize that there is no time
like the present to bring life to my dreams.
Just for today I will come down from my clouds
and be a 'doer'. ~Tigress Luv
July 22
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
"Let me live my life as I want, for
at its end it is I who is the one that must die."
~Tigress Luv
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Just for today I will stop and reflect upon
my youth. I will recall how, as a child, my dreams were never too far
from my thoughts. As I aged I somehow lost the ability to dream, and
sadly replaced the hard facts of reality for my 'enchanted dreamland'. Today
I will recall all my childhood dreams of awe and wonder, and see how my
life still holds many beautiful dreams yet to come.
Just for today I will dream of lightness and
gaiety, and embrace each dream with awe and wonder. ~Tigress Luv
July 21
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
"That's what learning is, after all; not
whether we lose the game, but how we lose and how we've changed because of
it and what we take away from it that we never had before, to apply to other
games. Losing, in a curious way, is winning." ~ Richard Bach, note written
by Richard Bach, The Bridge Across Forever
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll look at my health and see if
maybe I have put my physical well-being in the
background. Sometimes our emotional self is louder than
our physical self and we tend to skip
our physical wellness. Today I'll realize that if
I wait to hear my physical self cry for attention, it
may be too late.
Just for today I'll take the time to get healthier
habits. I'll eat better foods, and make sure my body
gets the rest it needs. Today I'll park just a
few spaces farther away, and forgo just one self-destructive habit.
Before I know it, I might be surprised to see that all these small steps
have taken me to a healthier, happier emotional me, too. ~Tigress Luv
July 20
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
My special place. It's a place no amount of hurt and anger can deface. I
put things back together there. It all falls right in place - In my special
space. My special place. ~Joni Mitchell
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Just for today I will make my very own special place. Whether it be in my
heart, in my mind, or in my home. A sanctuary where I can go and visit 'me',
away from the world outside. A place that exists only to embrace me. A space
set aside, from all that abides. My space can be chiseled out of a forest
bed, carved out of a golden meadow, or gently echoed in my heart. See, that
I have a space is not for you, but for me.
Just for today I will find my own sanctuary, and park my troubles outside
its door to wait for me to retrieve them, when I return from. My place. ~Tigress
Luv
July 19
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so
long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened
for us. ~Helen Keller
Today's Prayer or Thought:
People are as happy as they chose to be. If I stop and think about it there
are so many ways I can find happiness today, regardless of what may be happening
in my life right now. My attitude toward my day determines how much happiness
can be found from this day.
Today I'll stop blaming others for whether I'm happy or not, and see that
I, and I alone, am responsible for my attitude and the decisions I make toward
my own personal happiness. Today I'll stop being sad that roses have thorns
and start rejoicing that thorns come with roses. ~Tigress Luv
July 18
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Life is full of little mysteries and pleasant surprises, if we just allow
them to happen. Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is to just lie back in
the boat of life, and enjoy the serene, gentle rocking motion as the waves
take us to where we are destined to land. ~Tigress Luv
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Just for Today I will let go and let life lead me where it may. I will stop
trying to control my destiny and realize that only in letting go of my
controlling ways can I be truly free to accept things that come my way, and
find the peace and tranquility that comes with such acceptance.
Just for today I will let the day take me where it may. ~Tigress Luv
July 17
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Creativity can solve almost any problem. The creative act, the defeat
of habit by originality, overcomes everything. ~George Lois
Today's Prayer or Thought:
My feelings are too important to have them damaged by other's
imposed opinions.
Today if someone does something that triggers hurtful feelings in me,
I'll try to understand their motives as best I can, by
communicating with them. Today I'll tell myself that I'd rather
have my feelings based on truth, and not on my ego's
sensitive guesses.
The more I take the time to understand other's motives, the less likely
I am to come to incorrect or bitter conclusions. ~Tigress
Luv
July 16
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for
union with one's lost self. - Brendan Francis
Today's Prayer or Thought:
No matter what happens in my day, I'll try to remember that nothing
last forever. If some good should come of
my day I will embrace the joy close to
my heart and feel its glory. If some bad should come
of my day, I'll try to let it slide right
by me and remember that, "this, too, shall pass".
Today, before acting on temptation I'll stop and think
first, and avoid doing something I might later regret. I'll
find healthy alternatives to bad emotions. I'll touch another
life in a positive way.
Today I'll try to remember that this day
is just for me, and I will never have the
opportunity again to shape this day into one that
will be forever a beautiful memory. ~Tigress Luv
July 15
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full.- Marcel
Prous
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll try to find just one gift that has come out of my painful experience,
and see if that gift can help me find new ways of loving myself, and new
insights into future happiness. Sometimes, we thank God for unanswered prayers.
Upon searching in my past, I find that many of my bad experiences have actually
contained miracles in disguise.
Today I'll try to focus on the fact that the worst thing that ever happened
to me, may be the best thing that ever happened to me. ~~Tigress
Luv
July 14
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
If you want to make God laugh, tell him you have plans. - Sister Emerita
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll take a closer look at the qualities I admired about my ex.
Today I'll try to develop those same
qualities in myself.
Today I will see that, if I admire another person for who they
are, that I, too, can become the same. I have the ability within me,
right now, at this moment, to be and do anything I want. I can become my
own dream. ~~Tigress Luv
July 13
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
You've no idea of what a poor opinion I have of myself, and how little I
deserve it. - William Schwenck Gilbert
Today's Prayer or Thought:
If I've been blaming poor choices of mates for my failed relationships, I'll
ask myself whether these choices were mine, or choices thrust upon me.
Today I'll take the time to see how my poor choices may be a reflection of
my own low self-esteem.
Today I will not judge myself harshly, nor condemn myself, for my past
choices - but simply gain from this new insight that I am a good person,
worthy of love and respect. Today I have will learn to be more selective
in future mates. ~~Tigress Luv
July 12
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
~Mother Teresa
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll start 'seeing' by inner reflection. Today I will fully see all
my bad habits and negative attitudes, and search hard within myself for a
way to understand and 'fix' what I don't like. I will acknowledge that my
negativities are merely signs of unseen difficulties inside me. By changing
myself, I change those around me.
Today I will see that the only true time I can change another is when I have
created change within myself. ~Tigress Luv
July 11
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Creativity can solve almost any problem. The creative act, the defeat
of habit by originality, overcomes everything. ~ George Lois
Today's Prayer or Thought:
My feelings are too important to have them damaged by other's imposed opinions.
Today if someone does something that triggers hurtful feelings in me, I'll
try to understand their motives as best I can, by communicating with them.
Today I'll tell myself that I'd rather have my feelings based on truth, and
not on my ego's sensitive guesses.
The more I take the time to understand other's motives, the less likely I
am to come to incorrect or bitter conclusions. ~Tigress Luv
July 10
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
At the innermost core of all loneliness is a deep and powerful yearning for
union with one's lost self. - Brendan Francis
Today's Prayer or Thought:
No matter what happens in my day, I'll try to remember that nothing last
forever. If some good should come of my day I will embrace the joy close
to my heart and feel its glory. If some bad should come of my day, I'll try
to let it slide right by me and remember that, "this, too, shall pass".
Today, before acting on temptation I'll stop and think first, and avoid doing
something I might later regret. I'll find healthy alternatives to bad emotions.
I'll touch another life in a positive way.
Today I'll try to remember that this day is just for me, and I will never
have the opportunity again to shape this day into one that will be forever
a beautiful memory. ~Tigress Luv
July 9
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full.- Marcel
Prous
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll try to find just one gift that has come out of my painful experience,
and see if that gift can help me find new ways of loving myself, and new
insights into future happiness. Sometimes, we thank God for unanswered prayers.
Upon searching in my past, I find that many of my bad experiences have actually
contained miracles in disguise.
Today I'll try to focus on the fact that the worst thing that ever happened
to me, may be the best thing that ever happened to me. ~~Tigress Luv
July 8
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
If you want to make God laugh, tell him you have plans. - Sister Emerita
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll take a closer look at the qualities I admired about my ex. Today
I'll try to develop those same qualities in myself.
Today I will see that, if I admire another person for who they are, that
I, too, can become the same. I have the ability within me, right now, at
this moment, to be and do anything I want. I can become my own dream.
~~Tigress Luv
July 7 2003
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
You've no idea of what a poor opinion I have of myself, and how little I
deserve it. - William Schwenck Gilbert
Today's Prayer or Thought:
If I've been blaming poor choices of mates for my failed relationships,
I'll ask myself whether these choices were mine, or choices thrust upon me.
Today I'll take the time to see how my poor choices may be a reflection of
my own low self-esteem.
Today I will not judge myself harshly, nor condemn myself, for my past choices
- but simply gain from this new insight that I am a good person, worthy of
love and respect. Today I have learned to be more selective in future mates.
~~Tigress Luv
July 6
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
~Mother Teresa
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll start 'seeing' by inner reflection. Today I will fully see all
my bad habits and negative attitudes, and search hard within myself for a
way to understand and 'fix' what I don't like. I will acknowledge that my
negativities are merely signs of unseen difficulties inside me. By changing
myself, I change those around me.
Today I will see that the only true time I can change another is when I have
created change in myself. ~Tigress Luv
July 5
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
You shall have joy, or you shall have power, said God; you shall not have
both. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I will ask myself why I keep waiting for happiness to come my way,
in the same way I might wait for me to get the winning lottery ticket.
When I find myself unhappy, it's time for me to define my unhappiness. Do
I see having happiness as being in a relationship? Or having a beautiful
home? Or an adoring partner and perfect children? Do I define my happiness
only as a dream of some particular place or time in the future?
Today I will stop waiting for happiness to come to me. Today I will see that
this day is my future and that I need to stop expecting my happiness
to come in the form of a 'dream come true'. Dreams are just dreams, reality
always shows me that the real world is far from my dreams. Today I will be
happy for having today. ~Tigress Luv
July 4
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
When women go wrong, men go right after them. ~ Mae West
You can't go back and erase the past, but you can choose to go forward and
create a more meaningful future. You can't get that same love back, but you
can shoot for a better love. ~Myluckystars (Infidelity Board)
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll take special time to appreciate the precious moments that come
my way during the next 24 hours. I'll try to let go of my problems and rediscover
the things that bring me good feelings inside - embracing dear friends, watching
the peaceful sunset, a serene nature-walk, offering some kind words of
encouragement to another.
Maybe I don't need a certain thing, or person,
in my life to feel happiness and contentment. Maybe all I need to do is to
gain a new outlook that will help me unwrap the special gifts that come my
way every day. ~~Tigress
July 3
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
I have never in my life learned anything from any man who agreed with me.
~-Dudley Field Malone
Today's Prayer or Thought:
If rejection has hurt me today, it is because I believe I am deserving of
rejection. Today I will see how, in my past, rejection has taught me to
inner-reflect and self-improve. I will value only the rejection that benefits
me, and throw the rest out.
Today I will see that rejection only hurts if
I put truth to the cause, or value the source of the rejection. Today I will
opt to reject rejection. It is not a gift, I do not have to accept it.
~Tigress
July 2
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
No man or woman is worth all of your tears...and the only one who is will
not make you cry. ~Mel (from the original Circle of Hope)
Today's Prayer or Thought:
When I feel overwhelmed by the grief of my heartache I will stop and look
at all the beauty that surrounds me. I will look to this beauty and find
some peace and quiet, cradled in the arms of God's splendor. I will see the
beauty in my friends and family members, in the vast blue spans of the sea,
and the majestic violets and plums of the mountains.
Just for today I will feel the soft breeze as
it caresses my face, and I will remember to be thankful for all the gifts
that I do have. ~Tigress
July 1
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Everything has a crack in it -- that's how the light gets in. ~Leonard
Cohen
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll take more responsibility for my own happiness, and stop looking
toward another to 'fix' me. I'll take the time to inner-reflect and acknowledge
that only I can change my life, my outlook, and my courses. Upon my
inner-reflection, I'll pause just long enough to understand how my own 'attitude'
toward the events in my life is what feeds them either sorrow, or joy. I
make my own choices and decisions on how I choose to see things, and it is
in these 'attitude-choices' that I am ultimately affected. ~Tigress Luv
June
30
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
The bus bringeth and the bus taketh away. You know, that's a lot like
life. ~~Floyd Lawson, The Andy Griffith Show
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today, I'll look at the way I feel unloved or uncared for as a result of
my breakup, and see if I've been rejecting myself even more than I think
they did.
The more I believe that I am worthy of love and care, the less likely I will
be to believe that my entire existence was based on the acceptance or rejection
of one other person. ~~Tigress Luv
June 29
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
"I am finally starting to allow myself to feel
happiness, and I don't know how to handle it that well. So in some ways,
since I have been unhappy for so long (so lonely for interaction and
companionship) I have to learn how to deal with happiness all
over.
Funny, that I have read so much and done so much
to manage my sadness that I have overlooked the concept of managing happiness
too. And all emotions have to be managed, or else they become obsessive.
So today, I am working on managing my happiness,
which is a very different process than managing sadness. Does anybody have
any suggestions for me on how to manage my new found happiness?" ~N.R.
Davis
Today's Prayer or Thought:
The haying season is in full swing and trucks
loaded with bales of green-gold leave the meadows stirred into action. Killdeer
circle overhead, and quail call for a covey scattered by the noise of machines.
To all appearances, this is the quiet season - but appearances are deceiving.
The end is never the end but another beginning. The grasses drying in the
sun have dropped seeds that will sprout again. Tall graceful sunflowers shade
the wild petunias that wait for another rain. We finish one thing and begin
another - always with a fresh eye for how we can do better. It reminds us
that what we want to reap, we must first plant and cultivate and water with
love.
The Great Spirit has smiled upon us and made us glad.
~KEOKUK 1848
June 28
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
The reason Wakan Tanka does not make two birds...or two human beings exactly
alike is because each is placed here...to be an independent individual to
rely on himself. ~ Okute
Today's Prayer or Thought:
One fears attachment even more than one fears
abandonment. But you have to face abandonment alone.
Today let me realize that only in a loving attachment to my self will
I never be abandoned. ~Tigress Luv
June 27
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Romance and work are great diversions to keep you from dealing with yourself.
~~Cher
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll remind myself that I am only human. I have the right to make mistakes,
as I am human and without perfection. The natural consequences of my errors
are today's lessons to ensure my share of more harmonious tomorrows.
Today I will remind myself that no lesson is learned in hiding from the fact
that I am imperfect, or denying the fact that so is everyone else. ~~Tigress
Luv
June 26
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
The present is burdened too much with the past. We have not time, in our
earthly existence, to appreciate what is warm with life, and immediately
around us. ~~Nathaniel Hawthorne
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today I'll remind myself that other's advice can hold merit. Today I will
take the time to listen and benefit from my friends', and family's,
insight. Today I will admit that at times it's difficult to see things
impartially when my emotions are clouding up my thinking. It isn't that my
opinions do not matter; the truth is simply that I haven't the ability
to see my grief any way but through my tears.
Today I will allow my loved ones to offer me advice, and today I will look
at it -- not through my biased heart -- but through my open mind.
June 25
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Death is not the greatest loss of life. The greatest loss is what dies inside
us while we live. ~~Norman Palmerston
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Allowing myself to be continually hurt by someone's
actions is not a healthy part of loving someone. There is a fine line between
"healthy, loving commitment" and "toxic attachment". Only I have control
over my choice to live my life in happiness, or in my own misery. No one
can create my own Heaven and Hell. Only I have the option over denying or
accepting it to be.
Today I'll stop denying the truth if abuse is happening in my life, and begin
taking responsibility for the choices I make. ~~Tigress
Luv
June 24
Today's Inspiration or Quote:
Do not forsake your inner voice. Stop and listen to it, for it knows more
about you than you, yourself, do. As a sage, it speaks with years of wisdom
acquired from quiet observation and practical, hands-on experience. ~Tigress
Luv~
Today's Prayer or Thought:
Today let us learn to embrace our inner beings with the tender love and
acceptance that we yearn for. Today let us learn to love ourselves, the way
we need and deserve to be loved... wholly, completely, and without limitations
and boundaries. ~Tigress Luv~
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